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When Male Anger Never Lands

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There’s a silence that follows an explosion, not calm, but scorched. The walls still echo, the air feels heavy, and everyone inside that space carries tremor. Anger that never finds ground leaves no room for repair. The person inside it is caught in a constant storm: sleepless nights, tense muscles, thoughts spinning in loops. Relationships fray, trust erodes, and the smallest spark can reignite the fire. The devastation isn’t always dramatic; often it’s quiet, cumulative. Missed opportunities, words that wound, gestures that can’t be taken back. The damage spreads outward too. Friends, family, colleagues - anyone sharing that space - absorb the reverberation. Some retreat. Some fight back. Some simply learn to hold their breath until it passes. The pattern repeats, over and over, until everyone involved feels smaller, diminished, or unmoored. Yet anger itself is not the enemy. It carries energy that could protect, motivate, or clarify. The challenge - and the liberation - co...
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This is Winter Blues

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This is Winter Blues - Seasonal Affective Disorder. I have it. It’s not just the season, or a mood. It’s a heavy chemistry that dims the light inside. Talking about it, with someone who listens, helps keep that light reachable. For many men, this time of year brings a quiet fog: sleep shifts, energy drops, focus slips, isolation grows. It’s easy to hide behind work or stoicism, but it helps to name what’s happening. The instinct is to withdraw, but connection helps more than silence. Small steadiness matters: a daily walk, morning light, structure, warmth, company. For me, Vitamin D with calcium, and cod liver oil, help too — practical sunlight for the body. All of it works together to keep connection alive while it passes. If this sounds familiar, and the Winter Blues visit you, you’re not alone. You’re human, responding to winter. The Listening Room HQ exists for this kind of honesty. [image: Vincent van Gogh, Landscape with Snow, 1888] ...
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Reconnecting with Love, Soul, and Heart

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All my maps, readings, and analyses — the midlife loops, the physiology, the rhythms — are tools. They are precise, elegant, even beautiful. But tools are not the point. They are only meaningful if they lead back to what matters most: connection, presence, and the living pulse of life. Patterns, cycles, and crises are not failures. They are invitations. They invite me to notice, to feel, to honor what is alive in my body, in my nervous system, and in my soul. Behind every loop, behind every surge of adrenaline or quiet collapse, there is a voice saying: “I want to be seen, I want to be held, I want to matter.” Here, I explore systems, rhythms, and structures not for their own sake, but so that love, soul, and heart can have space to breathe. Every insight, every map, every reflection is an act of care, a way of saying: “I am here, I am present, I matter enough to look closely.” I return to this heart not to ignore the work, the loops, the physiology, or the midlife challenges. I ...
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The Midlife Cycle: Written Map of Loops, Physiology, and Environment

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This is a practical, text-based map of the midlife cycle, showing how behavior, physiology, and environment interact. It translates the loops, surges, and crashes we observe in men into a format you can reference, reflect on, and apply. Use it as a guide to notice your own patterns, track cycles of drive and depletion, and experiment with rhythms, tempo, and environmental adjustments that support steadiness and integration. This is not theory - it’s a map for real-life observation and subtle intervention. 1. Trigger / Disillusionment Psychological: dissatisfaction with life, identity, or achievements. Physiological: nervous system detects imbalance; cortisol may rise, dopamine dips. Environment: stress, overstimulation, or lack of support amplify perception of crisis. 2. Escalation / High-Adrenaline Push Behavioral: work intensification, novelty-seeking, compulsive projects, external fixation. Physiological: adre...
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Synthesis Framework: Men’s Midlife Cycles - Patterns, Physiology, and Integration

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Midlife isn’t just a psychological event - it is a physiological one. Men experience patterns, cycles, and crises not simply because of choices or personality, but because the body and nervous system are signaling, reacting, and recalibrating. This post bridges two bodies of work: the behavioral maps of midlife crisis and the hidden physiology explored through epigenetics, rhythm, and adrenaline cycle . Its purpose is to make visible the machinery behind the loops we observe: why men repeat high-intensity patterns, why some stabilize while others remain stuck, and how awareness of environment, rhythm, and bodily signals can guide integration. By connecting patterns with physiology, we aim to give men — and those who support them — a clearer map of what drives behavior, where energy gets trapped, and where subtle change is possible. This is not about blame or morality; it is about clarity, observation, and actionable insight. 1. The Loops: Behavioral Archetypes Men in midli...
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Equality & Equity - Round Table & Grail: Living Side by Side

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Equality and equity shape daily life in ways we often overlook. Small adjustments, awareness, and attending to needs support presence, connection, and balance. Sometimes we talk about equality as if it means “sameness.” But sameness isn’t always what we need. A round table gives everyone a seat — that’s equality. Yet each person has a different reach, a different hunger, a different path. That’s equity . One gives us form, the other gives us life. In Arthurian myth, two images guide us: the Round Table and the Holy Grail . The Round Table is equality. Every knight has the same seat, no one is higher, no one lower. It is the necessary ground — the structure where each voice matters equally. The Grail is equity. It is not given equally to all but reveals itself differently to each seeker, according to need, readiness, and soul hunger. Equity means receiving what is truly yours to grow, not simply what is identical to another. Both are needed. Equa...
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Brett Anderson - Mayan Soul Map Synthesis at The Polymath

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On  The Polymath  I’ve just shared a Mayan Soul Map synthesis for Brett Anderson of Suede. A few of you have already written saying how much it touched you, even sparking new interest in Mayan Astrology itself. You can read the full piece  here. Contact Us | Sessions | Maps & Readings | Entries | Who I Am Share this post: Facebook | LinkedIn | WhatsApp | Bluesky | Mastodon
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